Image this, before texting came along, people had a difficult time communicating face-to-face. Now even the shyest person can ask out someone if they have the right digits and a cellphone.
Robert Boldton, Ph.D in his book People Skills writes that ineffective communication causes an interpersonal gap that is experienced in all facets of life and in all sectors of society.
Texting and the constant need to be hooked into a wifi-socialization notification ping pong match is not helping to close this interpersonal gap Boldton describes. And his book is copyrighted in 1979.
Most people are not good at active listening. Active listening is difficult. We all do this – not listen intently enough to actually understand what another person is saying.
We might pretend to listen. But we likely let our minds wander. It might be what to do for lunch, that the person smells like garlic, or we pretend merely to listen until there is a pause and we can start to talk about what we want to say in words and gestures.
And if you are more intent on waiting for the next notification ping to sound or vibrate, then how intent can you ever really be? The tenderness and intimacy is lost.